This last week we submitted a family assignment that had us take a look at different trends and relationships within our family. It showed me the trends I want to keep and the ones I want to break. This week in class we learned about the dynamic a relationship may go through. Studies have shown over and over again that when a husband and wife get married they have a great relationship when it starts out and they work well together and their relationship is strong. Then as the first child comes in to the picture the relationship starts to drop and it will slowly rise but as child number 2 comes along it drops a little lower than before and this would continue with each child. The relationship seems to stay steady as the children grow up and then as each child moves away the relationship becomes more loving and stronger until they get back to where they were when they first got married, or close to that.
After I became aware of different trends within my family such as people being distant or controlling I look at the world around me and try to make my life the way I want it to be. Despite all the studies that show this pattern in most people I want to try and do what I can to avoid it. I want to keep my relationship with my husband strong and as we have children allow them to build us up instead of pull us down. I know at times that they will take a toll on us but for the most part I want us to become more strengthened and develop more love towards one another.
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