We
discussed the topic of divorce and came across some interesting statistics. 70% of divorced couples 2 years later said
they probably could have saved their married and they realize they probably
should have. 70% of men are remarried
after 2 years of being divorced and woman are less likely to remarry
rapidly. The last bit of information was
that the majority of people who had an affair don’t get a divorce. All of these statistics jumped out to
me. Divorce is such a common occurrence in
our society today and when many people get married they have the idea that if
anything goes wrong there is divorce and that’s ok. I think that these statistics should be shown
to couples before they get married so that they may have the thought in their
mind that if times get rough they should try their hardest to push through and
actually work the problem out. We talked
about one of the causes being that couple’s first stop being intimate or have
intimacy problems but don’t share that and then other problems start to pile
up. A marriage should be built up so
that anything can be talked about. If
you can’t talk to one another about your intimacy than you should be reevaluating
other parts of the marriage and try to become closer so it is easier to
discuss.
Family Relations
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
seeking council
We
talked about appropriate strategies to seeking counsel with our spouses and
families. First we went over the way the
1st presidency counsels. They
go to the temple every Thursday and go through a process of steps. They express love and appreciation, pray and
invite the spirit, discuss to consensus, recognize the Lord’s will, and end
with a prayer. We can have the same type
of counsel and receive the inspiration and revelation we need when we invite
the Lord. When we are discussing with
our family it is important to keep in mind that despite what everyone says each
person has the right to their opinion and we shouldn’t down play them. This is a great process to establish and have
within the family.
seeking council
We
talked about appropriate strategies to seeking counsel with our spouses and
families. First we went over the way the
1st presidency counsels. They
go to the temple every Thursday and go through a process of steps. They express love and appreciation, pray and
invite the spirit, discuss to consensus, recognize the Lord’s will, and end
with a prayer. We can have the same type
of counsel and receive the inspiration and revelation we need when we invite
the Lord. When we are discussing with
our family it is important to keep in mind that despite what everyone says each
person has the right to their opinion and we shouldn’t down play them. This is a great process to establish and have
within the family.
Discussing Intimacy
We
talked about the trends that are occurring in our society when it comes to
having knowledge about intimacy. It
seems that parents are becoming less involved with knowing basic information
and sharing it with their children.
There are more sexual education classes that may be promoting different
views than the ones we believe in. The
world just believes in “safe sex” and says knowing that is enough. Also, most teenagers and preteens seem to be
getting most of their information from their peers. All of these can lead to kids having the
wrong information or not understanding properly. Parents need to just open up and establish a
base with their kids on this level and talk to them about intimacy. Parents also need to be informed themselves because
there are new slang words and new intimacy things that each generation comes up
with.
Dating
Dating
is a very lose term now days. We decided
that it meant to participate in a variety of activities with a variety of
people. There is a proper process people
should go through to result in a healthier marriage. That is first people should date and then if
you find one person you want to pursue to take it to courtship and then comes
the engagement and then the marriage.
Along with that is the relationship attachment model which has 5 parts
that go in order. First you should know
someone, then learn to trust them, then you can rely on them, then commitments
can be made, and lastly touch can play a part in the picture. If you can’t trust someone then you shouldn’t
rely on then or commit to them or have physical moments with them. One step should not come before the other and
in our society it seems that physical touch is most out of whack. People meet one another and soon they are
making out and doing more and they don’t even know the person. This just results in danger and emotional
instability. When it comes to dating we
should follow this model.
Gender Differences
We
talked about how no matter what there are just differences between men and
woman. Woman are more emotional and like
to express their emotions. They are
verbal and more observant. Woman are
more detail oriented and relationship oriented and are more cooperative. Men have more upper body strength and like
spatial orientation. They have
protective instincts with can make them more aggressive. Men are typically more competitive and focus
on 1 thing at a time, but are able to switch gears when a new activity or idea
comes up. These differences are not bad
or wrong but they are just part of who we are and are part of our eternal
identities. People may try to change
them and disagree with them but this is who we are. When men and women come together they balance
one another out because men have things that women don’t have and women have
characteristics that men don’t have.
Women in the work force
We
talked about women being out in the work force.
During WWII I believe it was that many women had to go out and work
because their husbands were out fighting for our country. Then when the men returned the woman didn’t
want to give up their jobs. Many woman
today don’t want to be stay at home moms and they want to be out in the work
force. So families then have to pay for
the expense of getting a care taker and putting them in school while they are
at work and the family needs to have transportation for both the mother and
father. They may also be putting in
expenses in many other places as a result of both parents working. Often times families are creating more
expenses and spending more than if one parent was just working. There was one case where a family was
actually paying for the wife to work once they took a look at all the
expenses. Before jumping in to a job
women should really discuss it with their families and find out if they need to
work and bring in money or if it would cause unnecessary expenses and be harder
on the family.
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